We spoke with former programmer, now author, Jennifer Noel Taylor, author of Love Incorporated: The Business of Doing What You Love. It’s about discovering your true calling in life—even if it means throwing the practical out the window. We spoke to Jennifer about how to make it happen—starting with saying, “I quit!”
Where did this book idea come from?
I thought I was doing the practical thing in life. But the whole time I felt I wasn’t in the right place.
How did you know that you weren’t in a good place?
I was depressed at work—I just dreaded going into work every day. I was bored. I felt like I was making great money and had a good job, but that what I did lacked meaning.
Why do you think more people don’t make a change when they feel the same way as you did?
Security. People tend to be afraid. A lot of things—like a good job—feel secure. Like staying in a relationship that isn’t right, but it just feels safe and secure. There’s a process to making a change. People always think, “What if I leave my job and then I fail?”
What are some signs you were ready to make a change?
I’ve seen a couple of things. Some are looking for a man to save them and be their fairytale. A lot of women look to men to be their primary source of support and income. We can all be more sensitive, and women also tend to be more intuitive and emotional, in general. But that’s not a downside; intuition can be a good shortcut for women to make decisions. We can use it to our advantage.
Tune into what your heart is saying. We suppress a lot. It’s important to acknowledge our dreams and true passion. Be self-observant. For example, if you’re in a job and you’re just working paycheck to paycheck, maybe you should evaluate your happiness. Take the time to acknowledge your dreams, acknowledge their existence.
What do you say to women who are afraid to take the leap and make a change?
Become friends with fear. It’s there for a good reason. It may be telling you that it’s time to make a change or start something.
How do you know when it’s time to give up – even if you’re trying to achieve your passion? At what point do you have to be realistic and call it quits?
Giving up can be painful, but I know the feeling of failing again and again. It can be painful to cut infrastructure to match the pace of your sales, for example. But you can keep the dream going but just be more realistic about how you approach it. Failure can be humbling. Once you spend within your means, you also grow within yourself.